Thrive

Two years ago, when the beginnings of a church plant formed in my husband’s mind, it was just the thought of a church that would share truth, give grace and love others.  It wasn’t until our family was driving down our city’s freeway (at rush hour) that a name for our church even crossed our minds. “What about…

Three Things to Pray

Our church plant just celebrated it’s One Year Anniversary!  (Praise Jesus!)  We celebrated with a cookout, sand volleyball, and football in the park.  As I looked around, I saw a true family.  People were laughing, hugging, and cared for each other through their words and actions.  It seemed surreal.  But none of this would be…

Lesson #7: Cherish It

There will be hard times in church planting.  Scrutiny. Challenge after challenge.  Endings.  Beginnings.  All hard.   BUT there will amazing shreds of light amidst those hard times.  Light that almost blinds you.  Light in the shape of laughter at picnics, seeing joy in people’s faces during worship, tears when hearts are broken and healed in…

Lesson #6: It’s Super Lonely

If you’ve ever been in ministry you know that at times, it can get lonely. Having the “stigma” of the preacher’s wife allows people to think that you are perfect. You are unapproachable. You will judge them for being human. (All of which are completely untrue—but that doesn’t stop people from thinking it.)   When…

Lesson #5: Criticism Comes

We’ve all been criticized at one point in our lives.  (If you haven’t—WHEW!  You’ve dodged a painful bullet!) I don’t know if I’ve ever heard as much criticism in my life (yes- all 32 years of it…) than I did when we began to plant the church here.  (And it continues still today!  Yay!   Not…

Lesson #4: Trust and (Hard At Times) Friendships

I wanted to believe that church planting was going to be smooth sailing.  That I would make solid friends, not be known as the “pastor’s wife” and everything would remain peachy keen. I seem to have forgotten that I was dealing with human beings.  When planting, you are with the same people… A LOT.  Meetings,…

Lesson #3: Red Flags for a Rotten Core

Building a united and effective church planting team is challenging, but the success of the church plant hinges on it. You must be careful and look for signs that potential team members do not appear to be a root to potential problems.  But, before you look at team members look at your own leadership. Be…

Lesson #2: Combat with Silly Tongues

What do we do when we are the center of gossip?  How do we go about that? First, take your injuries to your Heavenly Father who is always waiting for you to run to Him.  He is always ready to listen to us; whether we are hurt, excited, or just mediocre. Second, we must check…

The Dirt: Lesson #1 Continued

Kiss of Betrayal I recently cracked opened and reread the story in Luke 22 about the Last Supper.  Jesus is literally breaking bread and pouring the wine with his team/friends/disciples when these words come out of his mouth:   “But the hand of him who is going to betray me is with mine on the table.”…

The Dirt: Lesson #1

Kiss of Betrayal It was the 4th grade.  I had betrayed her.  She had told me a secret and I had not only betrayed her trust, but I had laughed about it with my other classmate.  As we were snickering about it together, I looked up and saw Teresa’s big brown doe eyes bearing into…

The Dirt in Church Planting- 10 Lessons Learned

Stay tuned for some upcoming lessons that I’ve learned as a CPW (church planter’s wife) and part of the church plant team. It’s gonna be GREAT! (And pretty transparent…) Dun, dun, DUN!

Silly Tongues

My jaw dropped.  My heart raced.  My face flushed.  I was being called out in front of an entire classroom full of my teenage, female peers.  I was an accomplice in a hurtful display of gossip and treachery- and I was caught.  I found myself, tears pouring down my face while burning a hole into…